Dear Marie, thank you for sharing your story. I can understand it on all levels and from all the perspectives you described.
However, from my perspective, the event you described seems different.
Here's what I see.
I see a beautiful and smart girl standing in her own way.
Why? Because of the feeling of insecurity, and because of not understanding what actually happened to her.
This wasn't just a date. This was an ANNOUNCEMENT of what is POSSIBLE for you.
Namely, when we are honest with ourselves and allow ourselves to want what our soul really wants, it appears in our lives. Most often, it arrives in the form of signals that it is possible for us, such as this event that you described.
However, it is necessary that in those moments we DO NOT STAND IN OUR WAY. We need to recognize signals, synchronicities and raise our vibration through joy and gratitude. Then "the Universe says: She likes this. Now I'm going to send her more."
If we lower our vibration with insecurities, fears, and complaints that "full delivery" did not immediately arrive, we move away from the desired reality.
From the bottom of my heart, I want you to reframe this situation into an event that is just an announcement of what is possible for you and what you deserve. I wish you to be joyful about it and open to even better and more complete manifestations of your desires. Because it is possible for you and you deserve it.
I thought you summed up the contrasting sides of the dating experience so well. It is so tough to be open and vulnerable. We can't have control of anything really, except our responses to things, so being willing to allow ourselves to experience, is so scary but essential. If not, we miss those beautiful possibilities and connections, right?
Wow! So glad you shared such a vulnerable story. I know many readers will see themselves here. I love how you reflected on your insecurity about the dates and were able to use that to see the pattern for your business, too. Well done! I really enjoyed reading this. I do not agree that one day the right one will 'pass by' - the right one will stop for you and be amazed at his luck❣️
That sounds like a classic story where we create an idea of ourselves as somehow inferior and incomplete. That’s why rejection is so scary — we perceive it as confirmation that we really are defective. And that fear shows up as a kind of self-manipulation that tells us: “Don’t go there.”
Now, the key is to become aware of that inner dialogue and realize that, as much as it might feel like a fact, it’s actually just a belief.
Thank you for sharing. I was there... and then I went to a shaman -- or more she came to me-- and I purged old fears and the past where I thought I was in love, but I was not... and allowed my heart to open. And then... I met my kindred flame. We have been married over 20 years. We have two children.. and I want you to know this -- I STILL HAVE THIS FEAR!
It is old. Very old. My father has Narcissistic Disorder, my parents both had affairs, my father cuts me off whenever I hold my ground, I spent years sad about this and begging for him back... but not since I recovered from being a co-dependent and embraced true self-love, and on and on... my point being is that love is real. But it takes work to tell myself that this man, this love of mine still loves me and is not going to leave me. And to not sabotage it. To embrace it fully every day.
Good read dating lady is fun. Imagine getting paid to date made me smile companionship with man woman and connecting secret wine 🍷 with fine dinner definitely a go to.
I can totally relate to the fear of being rejected or not good enough.
I also started a “real” job this month. Albeit a part-time one. I think actually it’s making me work harder on my self-employment as I have to be more focussed and productive in my free hours. And these Easter school holidays are the first holiday in years that I’m enjoying properly without stressing about not being able to work because my kids are off school. It’s bliss!
So I guess what I’m trying to say is nothing is rigid. Being employed after being self-employed isn’t always a cop out if you feel drawn to it. The lines are blurry and both can still be done. Thanks for this lovely article. ❤️
Awesome, good for you Marie. Everything is a lesson. Often it is to let go. Let go of the pressure to be liked and so on but just to live in the moment 😊❤️
Dear Marie, thank you for sharing your story. I can understand it on all levels and from all the perspectives you described.
However, from my perspective, the event you described seems different.
Here's what I see.
I see a beautiful and smart girl standing in her own way.
Why? Because of the feeling of insecurity, and because of not understanding what actually happened to her.
This wasn't just a date. This was an ANNOUNCEMENT of what is POSSIBLE for you.
Namely, when we are honest with ourselves and allow ourselves to want what our soul really wants, it appears in our lives. Most often, it arrives in the form of signals that it is possible for us, such as this event that you described.
However, it is necessary that in those moments we DO NOT STAND IN OUR WAY. We need to recognize signals, synchronicities and raise our vibration through joy and gratitude. Then "the Universe says: She likes this. Now I'm going to send her more."
If we lower our vibration with insecurities, fears, and complaints that "full delivery" did not immediately arrive, we move away from the desired reality.
From the bottom of my heart, I want you to reframe this situation into an event that is just an announcement of what is possible for you and what you deserve. I wish you to be joyful about it and open to even better and more complete manifestations of your desires. Because it is possible for you and you deserve it.
Mladena, I loved your comment so so much. I read it 3 times. And it made me smile big times 🧡🧡🧡 Thank you for changing my perspective.
Dear Marie, I am truly happy for you! A smile and joy are the first steps towards the life of your dreams. That was my goal for you. Keep it!
I appreciate your macro-spiritual perspective.
Thank you! Have a nice day!
I thought you summed up the contrasting sides of the dating experience so well. It is so tough to be open and vulnerable. We can't have control of anything really, except our responses to things, so being willing to allow ourselves to experience, is so scary but essential. If not, we miss those beautiful possibilities and connections, right?
Thank you Gayle 🧡🧡
Yes, to feel the fear and do it anyhow.
Wow! So glad you shared such a vulnerable story. I know many readers will see themselves here. I love how you reflected on your insecurity about the dates and were able to use that to see the pattern for your business, too. Well done! I really enjoyed reading this. I do not agree that one day the right one will 'pass by' - the right one will stop for you and be amazed at his luck❣️
So true!
Oooh, that last sentence 🧡🥹 thank you!!
Love this! And yep, it happens when you least expect it. The "getting your ass out there is what you need to do" is very true though!
it is!! 🧡
So what's wrong with long-distance dating? And if he turns out to be The One, then up sticks and move. You are self-employed.
And stick with that self-employment. No employer ever has your best interest in mind.
Hahah so true. I didn't dare to suggest - scared of rejection 🙈 not sure if I would be able to deal with it either!
If he rejects you - that's on him. His loss.
You are still you, and your value wouldn't be diminished a bit.
That sounds like a classic story where we create an idea of ourselves as somehow inferior and incomplete. That’s why rejection is so scary — we perceive it as confirmation that we really are defective. And that fear shows up as a kind of self-manipulation that tells us: “Don’t go there.”
Now, the key is to become aware of that inner dialogue and realize that, as much as it might feel like a fact, it’s actually just a belief.
I struggle with that awareness myself.
By the way, dates are great :)
Thanks Davor! Even though I had all these insecurities, noticing them is already a huge step forward. It can only get better from now on ;)
Really interesting story.... I experienced similar but different 😉😉
How did it end? 😁
I got back into dating last year and got wrecked. I don’t know if I want to ever do that again.
Oh no, I understand. It's really scary. But one day, you'll be ready again!
Thank you for sharing. I was there... and then I went to a shaman -- or more she came to me-- and I purged old fears and the past where I thought I was in love, but I was not... and allowed my heart to open. And then... I met my kindred flame. We have been married over 20 years. We have two children.. and I want you to know this -- I STILL HAVE THIS FEAR!
It is old. Very old. My father has Narcissistic Disorder, my parents both had affairs, my father cuts me off whenever I hold my ground, I spent years sad about this and begging for him back... but not since I recovered from being a co-dependent and embraced true self-love, and on and on... my point being is that love is real. But it takes work to tell myself that this man, this love of mine still loves me and is not going to leave me. And to not sabotage it. To embrace it fully every day.
I need this shaman 😁🧡
She is in Honesdale PA now if you want her information.
Ghost writer story M❤️🐾⚡️
Good read dating lady is fun. Imagine getting paid to date made me smile companionship with man woman and connecting secret wine 🍷 with fine dinner definitely a go to.
Thanks for this nice sharing ☺️🙏🏽
Thank you for reading!!
I can totally relate to the fear of being rejected or not good enough.
I also started a “real” job this month. Albeit a part-time one. I think actually it’s making me work harder on my self-employment as I have to be more focussed and productive in my free hours. And these Easter school holidays are the first holiday in years that I’m enjoying properly without stressing about not being able to work because my kids are off school. It’s bliss!
So I guess what I’m trying to say is nothing is rigid. Being employed after being self-employed isn’t always a cop out if you feel drawn to it. The lines are blurry and both can still be done. Thanks for this lovely article. ❤️
So true, thank you for sharing Lynsey 🧡
Really love and admire the vulnerability Ms Vandoom. Great piece my friend
Thank you my friend 🧡 how's life?
Hahaha to be honest, not so different than yours from what I’ve been reading 🩵
Great story! And a reminder that life is beautiful when you let it.
True 🧡
Awesome, good for you Marie. Everything is a lesson. Often it is to let go. Let go of the pressure to be liked and so on but just to live in the moment 😊❤️
Exactly this, my post of today is on that topic 🧡 thanks Colin!
😊 you’re welcome Marie