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Matthew Wainscott's avatar

I'm in the middle of a conversation with someone on threads hearing yet again that I think too much and then an email comes in with this article. I don't know how not to think I don't know how to turn my brain off other than like you said going out having fun festivals God I would just love to go to a festival I would love to travel and yet I saw patterns in synchronicities that can't be explained through rational logic and I followed them everywhere they went and now by societal standards I am in dire straits and I don't care I know that I'll be fine. But I don't understand how not to think I don't know mindfulness. And so now I feel like well now I'm just going to be researching mindfulness and it's going to give me something else to think about. I appreciate you sharing this and I'm sure I'll find my way but right now I'm exhausted

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

And I loved following along that train of thought from you. Very similar how it goes in my head 😂 beautiful synchronicity!!

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Juliana S.'s avatar

"You think too much" is such a nice compliment! I'm sorry to hear about your subscribers, hopefully you do get them back. Thank you for the reminder to backup!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

I never thought of it that way! Thank you 🙏🏻

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Claudia Brose's avatar

that's a good perspective. Thinking too much is actually a nice compliment.

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Quin Halloway's avatar

I told my therapist that as long as I’m not spiralling, I figure I’m thinking just the right amount. That’s just how I’m wired. People often assume I’m an extrovert because I’m outspoken, but being loud in a room and being fuelled by it are two very different things. I’m not an extrovert. I recharge alone. Solitude isn’t a retreat for me it’s a reset. It’s taken me time to realise I don’t need to fit the labels people give me. Sometimes you just need space, mentally, physically, even geographically.

A holiday can be the perfect way to hear your own voice again.

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Love this Quin. I can really relate to everything you are writing!

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Shelby Schneider's avatar

Have fun surfing! I def “ think too much” ; working on it .😂❤️.

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Thanks 🧡

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Mika's avatar

I love how our lives sometimes mirror the same thing. I’ve started meditation to help my overthinking.

I’m loving it so far!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Yes me too! Read your most recent post and could relate so hard!

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MindOfMine's avatar

Yess..mindfulness and meditation are so beneficial! I'm happy it's helping you until now.

By the way, how do you back up subscribers? I'm a new Substacker (from the Netherlands) and still figuring some things out 😊

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

There’s an export button if you go ti your dashboard and then choose the tab ‘subscribers’!

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MindOfMine's avatar

Ah thanks! I'll check it out!

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Bin Jiang's avatar

“You think too much,” if I lost 250 subscribers overnight my stats would be negative.

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Gayle Beavil 🇨🇦's avatar

This sounds like such a healthy space you are in, Marie. The "old Marie", being back, with the additions of the homebody self you discovered during Covid. I bet the numbness was covering up some of the feelings you feel percolating up, recently. Glad you are able to feel them now, to hold them for a time, and then let them go when they no longer serve you. Enjoy your getaway!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Thank you Gayle!! Yes to everything you wrote! Still dealing with all the feelings, they are not going anywhere so far 😅 but I guess it’s part of the process

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Andi Bitay's avatar

The same thing happened to me too, but I didn’t realize it: I lost subscribers on the same day I deleted a section. Now I know!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Ugh that sucks Andi 🥺

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Claudia Brose's avatar

Ha! I know that feeling and the words: You are thinking too much. I LOVE thinking and find it almost odd when people say it. But there are occasions where they are right....just do, act, decide - instead of "over"-thinking it.

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

I love thinking too!

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Riker Rhodes's avatar

Thank you so much <3 I appreciate this post.

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Jones Beach's avatar

I resonated so hard with the part where you convinced yourself you liked staying home during the pandemic! I'm only just beginning to come out of my funk as well, so it was nice reading about your journey!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Oh yes. That one took me soooo long! Good you’re getting out of it as well!

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Jill Roth's avatar

I surely think too much but have also been accusing of talking too much...ugh...happy medium please🥹

And thanks for the advice about changing things. Will be mindful and back it up. Thank you Marie!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Thank you for reading Jill 🧡 it’s a difficult balance!

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Riker Rhodes's avatar

I don't talk enough, but when someone mentions it, the built-up pressure explodes, I talk WAY too much, and then they probably think I should go back to not talking.

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Haha I’m also more of a non talker, but sometimes it just unstoppable 😂

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Jill Roth's avatar

😂 Ugh..Just like the air was let out of the ballon, huh?

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Barbara's avatar

Love this, I frequently get that "You think too much!" line too. Mindfulness has been so helpful for me in the past, but in my current season of life I haven't made time for it. I'm between jobs, and grateful for this reminder of ways I can fill that space I have in my day now.

P.S. such a cute pup!!! 🩷

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

She is adorable indeed 🥰 and yes, mindfulness requires to carve out time for it consciously. Otherwise you just go on and on without stopping!

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Susan's avatar

Overthinker here also! This resonated on so many levels. Thank you for sharing how a mindfulness practice helped you recognize thought patterns and work through them.

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Thank you for reading Susan 🧡

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Pamela Chávez's avatar

I'm looking forward to reading how you deal with restlessness and nervousness about having plenty of time but not sure what to do with it. Similarly to you, I'm going through kind of a sabbatical. Enjoy your trip with Lola!

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Marie Vandoorne's avatar

Ooh how’s your sabbatical going? Mine is a learning curve, but no regrets! And thank you! 🙏🏻

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Pamela Chávez's avatar

Learning curve, that it is very familiar to me. And dealing with the uncomfortableness that comes along. I've passed the stage where I just wanted to rest. I'm now finding myself in a place we're I am trying out some stuff and feeling somewhat engaged. Overall I'm still figuring things out. Thanks to you too 😊

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