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Well, slow can be so far away from boring. I feel I am much more curious and open to tiny detours in everyday life when I have a "perfectly slow" day. And I just love how you describe your's - sounds like you are heading in the right direction and I am sure there will be more elements becoming real for you, one slow not-so-boring day at a time!

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May 31Liked by Marie Vandoorne

This paragraph was the one for me: "The 'slow life' you see and read about is still much more idyllic than my 'boring' life. But I'm not striving for that aesthetically pleasing look for videos. I'm striving for a life that makes me happy and feel fulfilled."

That is exactly what life is all about. I don't want it to look good, I want it to feel good.

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Beautiful! Actually, you described *my* perfect day. 😊 I also worked hard to get so much closer to it, and some days I wake up and I think, damn, I'm living it! This is the life I dreamt of. Of course it's not all perfect and a bliss - not by far - but this boring life (like so many around me think I live) is perfect for me. ❤️

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Thank you Monica 🧡🧡🧡 it'll never be perfect and a bliss, life will always go up and down, but fulfilment is always in the small things for me.

Happy to know my fellow millennial loves the same things 😍

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The key word here is Fulfilment! Most people don’t realise this and that’s why we spent our days chasing the wrong stuff. Slowing down sometimes is the most liberating thing. Beautiful piece 💗

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Indeed! that's the key 🔑 thank you Cynthia 🧡🙏🏻

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Even fulfillment. Rage against the dying of the light.

“The risk of processing something more. To give it time. To be extra wise, is to live a life without regret, but noticed at the end, a slightly imperfect life. Whoops, my bad, what could have been had?”

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May 29·edited May 29Liked by Marie Vandoorne

The day sounds great! I often miss my time in Italy. Although it was relatively short and in my childhood, I still remember the wide-spread fields of Brescia I used to see. I also remember sitting on a huge stone by Lago di Garda and looking over the beautiful lake spectacle. I also love Milano. Italy's as enchanted as my dreams.

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The lakes in Northern Italy are amazing 😍

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Do whatever it is you love doing ❤️

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Boring is the best! Cool piece Marie :)

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Jul 12Liked by Marie Vandoorne

In Asian, people are prone to be so diligent, work so hard to burn ourselves out. However, most people are afraid to "be bored" and do something "meaningless". To love the boring life also needs bravery. Really love your description of the perfect day. Hope it will come true!

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there is a fine line between boring and ideal

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The reality is that a lot of what you mentioned isn’t that far fetched compared to the lives we see people chase on social media.

It’s astonishing how little we need to lead a happy life!

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Indeed, and sad how we are led to believe we need all that much as social media presents! Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment!

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this is so beautiful and inspiring because it’s very similar to the life i crave … slow slow slow and boring :)

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Jun 11Liked by Marie Vandoorne

It sounds lovely either way :) What made you move to Milan?

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My partner got a job in Milan! And he’s Italian 😊 so I knew it would happen one day!

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As a Dutchie, I strongly relate to having to plan for things 2 months in advance 🥹 I’m a huge fan of the slow life, it’s only quite hard to hold on to it when society around you doesn’t.

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So true Mike and Hannah! I’m pretty sure it would be different if I was in Belgium! Last week was the first time I felt a bit lonely in Milan. It was such beautiful weather and I just wanted to be able to text a friend and go have an aperitivo. So it has upsides but also downsides!

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“Realized I was depressed, saw what it was like to be motivated. Holy hell. Disgusting.”

Give me boredom, angst, regret. That’s life.

“Yes I do hate the world, but hate isn’t the opposite of love, indifference is. And I do love the world too. See you cant deny the richness.”

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Sometimes boring is just what you need. Reminds me of two poems by Wendy Cope - "The Orange" and "Being Boring" - I love both ❤️

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Jun 7Liked by Marie Vandoorne

I really enjoyed this! Sounds awesome!

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