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Most people don’t know what to do with their life. They have vague dreams of ‘one day’ and, ‘if I win the lottery, then — fill in the blank’. Or people who have always dreamed of writing a book but never put a word on paper.

And then, one day, the unimaginable news comes. You are sick. You are going to die. Or you don’t even get a warning. It just happens out of the blue. Nothing can prepare us for death; we will never know when our time comes. But when the time comes, you’ll regret not loving your life more.

Nobody likes to spend their life contemplating their mortality, but death comes to us all. My question for you is why we should be afraid of the inevitable. Death is coming, and since it can’t be escaped, we might as well learn something from it.

Here’s how.

A lot of us are dreamers but not believers

You’re wasting the precious moments you’ve been given — squandering your life energy on meaningless tasks you hate. You dream about a better life but don’t believe it’s possible.

You just accept life as it is and continue to be miserable in your boring 9 to 5 job that doesn’t add any value to the world—hoping for a pay rise every year that barely covers your electricity bill.

You’ll drive home after work, exhausted, knowing you still have to go to the grocery store, figure out what to eat, cook, and clean. Then, you’ll waste two hours of free time on Instagram Reels.

On social media, you consume content about improving your life: sleep well, eat well, move a lot, be consistent, put in the hard work every day, and so on. But you feel bad because you don’t have these perfect habits.

And then, occasionally, you set good intentions, typically around New Year’s. You say, “It’s time to change; I will get healthy, drink less alcohol, quit social media, move a lot and chase my dreams.” Enter the 2nd of January, and all those resolutions are already out of the window.

Many of us, if not 95%, recognize these scenarios.

Watch out for the vicious perfection cycle

I’m not here to blame or shame you or point a finger and tell you how to live your life. I’ve tried to optimize my life many times and failed miserably when I tried to follow the perfect lifestyle. Perfect habits strive for perfection, and perfection doesn’t exist.

If done wrong, it can lead to a toxic relationship with yourself, putting a lot of pressure on yourself and your loved ones. It’s a vicious cycle. You believe you have to have all these healthy habits and need to check them every day. But you can’t keep up with the habits, so you think you are worthless, not capable because you can’t do it.

Life has ups and downs. You can’t systemize everything. Things will happen, your sleep will get disrupted, and your loved ones will need you the moment you are in deep focus mode. You must accept this.

It’s not about all or nothing, on the contrary. All or nothing doesn’t exist. And whatever the gurus tell you, don’t buy into it. I don’t believe that sh*t anymore. I spend too much time and money trying to follow in their footsteps. It does not work.

You have to do your own thing and find your way

And this requires hard work — something most people don’t want to accept.

Most people need to hit rock bottom to take change seriously.

Change happens when the pain of staying is greater than the pain of change 

— Tony Robbins

Often, it’s also because people don’t know what they want to do with their lives. They can’t answer the question: who do you want to be?